The past 2 days Sam has been even more wild than usual. He is a biting, scratching, whining, tantrum-throwing version of himself and I don't like it! Devin and I think we discovered a 2-year-old molar that is coming in, which would explain a lot. I really don't like being impatient with Sam. Sam has been the one person who I can look at and brush off any unruly behavior because I love him so much. What I don't love so much is being bitten. 3 times today actually.
I am not a yeller. I have been really, REALLY tempted though, these past 2 days. Is this just my pregnancy making me less patient or is this the new Sam?
I am really worried about my patience when the baby comes (19 days and counting). I don't ever want to yell at Sam simply because I am stressed. I guess that's where prayer comes in.
Another thing I am worried about is making sure Sam gets enough love when the baby comes. How do I make both kids feel like the favorite?
For those of you with 2+ kids, is my world really going to shatter when this baby comes? I am SO excited and can hardly wait, but the reality is starting to sink in. I am going to have double the workload, double the demands, double EVERYTHING.
On a positive note, I've only gained 3 more lbs. in the past 2 weeks. Seriously that is so good for me.
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Allison, I was so stressed out about having two kids. It really wasn't bad for me, but Lola was REALLY good when we had Ruby. She seriously has been an angel sister (most of the time). And she was and is really good at entertaining herself, which saved me SO much.
It is a given that Sam will not get as much attention as he does now, but that doesn't mean that you will love him less, and he will learn to adjust. It will all work out.
I remember Lola being about the same age that Sam is right now and going through a really rough stage where she was SO naughty. It lasted a little bit, but she got over it. The tantrums were horrible. It's probably an age/stage thing that he'll eventually outgrow.
Good luck! Can't wait to see your little girl.
Well I cant say that I have never yelled at Lana, because I have. No mom is perfect and we all have to work on patience. So just know your not the only one working on that :)
I totally remember the exact feeling as you with th 2nd child coming. It all falls into place and its nothing like you think it will be. I used to wonder the same things. At first cause I had a hard recovery. Lana spent a lot of time with her dad(going out daddy daughter dates or just running errands) When I was feeling better I made sure I had a Lana and Mommy time each day! I think that helped a lot! Lana was also always interested in what her brother was doing ALL the time.
Dont worry about it too much you will do great, and everything will end up just fine:)
Your friends have good words of advise here. Sam is testing the waters and showing his independence...so normal. You have given him nothing but love and patience and that will continue to help him adjust to what is next! When Adam was born, Brian would have nothing to do with me for a few months. It hurt my feelings, but I was thankful that he turned to John and continued to feel loved. Some less-than-perfect moments are to be expected. I guess Sam gets to have some of those too! You are the best mom! Just keep up your great efforts!
And double the love! And double the laughs and hugs! You and Devin have been some of the greatest parents I have ever known to Sam, so I can only imagine that you will do even better now that you've had some practice! You will be so good. God won't give you more than you can handle- I know from experience!
Everything will work out. I worried about Ashlyn feeling loved enough too. I've been lucky to have Ryan home so much lately that it helped with the transition. She got lots of daddy attention while I'd feed Carter. Now she always tells me to go put him in bed so she can have me to herself. But she loves him and Sam will love his sister. You should get a present for him from the baby and give it to him at the hospital.Our friend gave their little boy a baby doll and said it was great because he would take care of his baby while his mom was taking care of the new baby. He may be whiny and test you for a little bit until he realizes that she's not going anywhere and before he knows it, he won't remember what life was without his sister. So hang in there. Being tested by them is hard!
Okay... so you ARE really patient. I'm sure more than me. But I will say, I never yelled until MJ was older than 2. I thought I was so good, keeping myself composed and such. But now, well, sometimes nothing gets through to MJ until I raise my voice. I do it less often when I take time for me (get up early, exercise and ready before the days gets crazy). But sometimes MJ just kills me. He's so smart now he knows exactly how to push my buttons. I think from age 2 1/2 or 3 to 3 1/2 was the hardest. He's better at communicating now, so it's a little easier.
I try to take everything as a grain of salt. That in 20 years this will all be funny and I'll miss it. Prayer definitely helps. You will do awesome... and two isn't double the demands, but you will have less quiet time. :)
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