The kids are so sweet. Seriously. The little boy (4) was such a help, interpreting his little sister's language for me, getting her sippy cup when she couldn't reach it, etc. He even noticed when Sam was feeling a little antsy watching 2 strangers play with his toys all day. Sam was getting whiny, and the little boy said, "Sam, do you want to run?!" Does Sam want to run? That's his source of joy!
Sam was a naughty, naughty boy today. It was horrible. He bit Mollie on the stomach.
Mollie was so upset (with good reason). I made Sam do the usual, "I'm sorry Monnie" followed by a hug and a kiss and timeout. I warned him that if he hurt her again, I was going to put "YUCKY YUCKY" soap in his mouth (suggestion from my sister-in-law).
Not more than 25 seconds later, Sam assaulted Mollie again. I grabbed him, grabbed the dish soap, and coated his little teeth and tongue. Sam thought this was great. He laughed out tiny bubbles.
A few hours later, when he hurt her again, I tried a different kind of soap, hoping it would taste worse. Nope. More laugh bubbles.
I don't know what to do with this boy. I can't even go to the bathroom without being nervous the whole time that Mollie will get injured.
I do not believe in spanking. I never want to hit my child so long as I can help it (I have already thought of one exception when I will spank them: if they run into the street or something else that endangers their lives).
Help me and tell me what to do!!! This really has got to stop.
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That might me the funniest thing ever...seriously...what kid enjoys soap in the mouth! I am at a loss! :) He's so cute though! I would keep trying different things til something works, taking away his favorite toys, or something like that? Wow, still can't believe the soap thing, crazy! Mollie is precious! As always!
I wish I had some good advice. I couldn't help but laugh about the "laugh bubbles". I didn't spank MJ until he was 2 1/2 I think. And it was because he was headed full speed into a seriously busy road. I almost had a heart attack. Sadly, I have spanked him more times since then, but it's mainly when he hurts Josie, and I hate doing it.
The main thing is that you remain calm, or he'll realize that he is controlling you. And stay consistent with whatever you do- timeout, soap, etc. I've heard of giving them vinegar, hot sauce, etc. He can't like those things, right?
Good luck! At least he's super cute!
Just find anything that they don't like and use it. I have a friend who uses mustard because her son cannot stand it.
I have also heard doing the same thing back to them so they understand that it hurts. Which seems weird to me but I have heard that it works. So it he bites her, you bite him...that sort of thing.
Good luck!
Having had experience with a son who is very physical, it's so important to protect Mollie.
Biting is one of the worst and saddest things. Plus it can be dirty (infections and such).
I bit John and Ella back (not hard breaking skin, but firm and calmly). Then I said "Biting hurts. OWIE! Do not bite." It only took one or two times and they never did it again. For some children it might take a few times. I cried because it was hard to do, but it worked.
I'm a big no-no girl with spanking because I know if I spanked, I wouldn't be able to control my anger. It would just escalate and I would spank all the time.
Instead, we would make sure Ella was out of reach from John as often as possible. Putting her on the ground with John was just asking for injury. These toddlers are destructive and very self involved. And the babies are helpless when left alone (even for a split second).
Two year olds need rigid repitition (time outs frequently). It's grueling work, but worth every minute. You could also tell Sam "Don't touch Mollie, she's taking a time out." That way he understands personal boundaries. Good luck!!
I think you're wonderful.
Mollie's little tummy makes me want to cry! Sweet little thing! How did it go today?
i hated soap! mom did it to me, the bar and the liquid. i had vinegar and tabasco sauce too i think. you know what russ says he would do, lock them in a closet and let them cry it out (half joking). i know, rude. he's going to have a rude awakening.hahahaha.
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